12.07.2009

so there I was


I was studying for my historical furnishings final last night when I got a text from a number I didn't recognize. The stranger sending it let me know that a friend's friend had said he needed to meet me. An interesting diversion to Queen Anne and Duncan Phyfe so we chatted via text while I went over my notes.

This lead to becoming friends on facebook so we could check out each others profiles { step to the dating scene some of you may not be familiar with}. Texting turned into a little chatting online about the friends we have in common and the photos featured on our home pages. I was concentrating on my reading when I realized it had been awhile since I'd gotten a message. Maybe he just got busy too. But not a peep since.

No harm, no foul. I don't know this person and don't feel the need to take it personally. {Besides, he could be stuck in an elevator somewhere.} I shared the story with the folks tonight as we chatted on the phone and we all got a good laugh over it. My social life is entertaining if anything. This kind of abrupt end to online conversation is pretty common. I wouldn't think twice about it if it was someone I knew. While it is a far stretch from the kind of first meeting anyone would rave over, it was still technically meeting for the first time.. Would you consider it good etiquette to just up and disappear?

The crazy side effect is analysis of the lamest things. The guy has over a thousand facebook friends. I have a fraction of that. Am I considered a social misfit? Should I become friends with every person I have ever bumped in to just to up my online popularity or should I keep it to just those people I really would consider my friend? I've been tagged in less than stellar pictures online but I like them because there are fun memories attached. Should I untag myself so as not to be judged by them?

So there I was enjoying my sunday evening when a stranger comes along saying we should meet. Somewhere between meaningless texts and checking out photos I found myself a little off balance and second guessing myself. What is that?

5 comments:

  1. I completely know how you feel. I do the same thing. My social life consists of the same problem. Its not you its them. Boys are just lame if they do that. :D

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  2. People who have tons of online friends, usually don't have any real friends. Maybe he's a basement dweller who lives completely virtually. "i'm so much cooler online"

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  3. Maybe he is married and his wife just walked in. Or maybe he is really an old fart like me and he just lost his train of thought. Any way you look at it, you are better off w/o him.

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  4. Parker wonders the same thing about people who have millions of online friends and he doesn't. I know both of you and those who don't know you are REALLY MISSING OUT!!! FRYBABY

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